SECURE Methodβ„’, Trauma-Informed Relationship Reset
Dr Lisa Kleyn

Stop Pushing Your Partner Away When You Feel Hurt

Break the patterns costing you love. A live, science-backed community to help you build secure love that lasts.

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University of
OXFORD
University of
CAPE TOWN
World
Health Organization
NHS
Central London
Vogue
KHIRON
Clinics
Psychotherapy
Networker
Prevention
Science Journal
The Problem

You Love Your Partner…
But Something Keeps Going Wrong

You're not imagining it. And it's not your fault.

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You start conversations calmly… then suddenly feel overwhelmed

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You shut down, lash out, or push them away

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Conflict feels intense, confusing, or impossible to repair

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You feel anxious, unsafe, or emotionally drained afterward

"Why did I react like that again?"

You're Not Broken

You're stuck in a pattern your nervous system learned. And no one ever showed you how to change it.

The Belief Shift

This Isn't a Communication Problem

You're not reacting this way because you're "too emotional" or "bad at relationships."

You're reacting because your nervous system is trying to protect you.

And when it senses threat, even emotional threat, it takes over. That's why:

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You say things you don't mean

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You shut down when you want to stay connected

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You feel overwhelmed in moments that should feel safe

Until you learn how to work with your nervous system, not against it, these patterns will keep repeating.

Nervous system illustration
The Philosophy Behind The Secure Love Lab™

Helping you change patterns,
not partners.

Most people come to relationship work wanting their partner to change.
Dr Lisa’s research shows the real work is different.

The patterns that hurt your relationship most don’t live in your partner. They live in your nervous system, your attachment history, and the invisible influence of the people around you. Secure doesn’t mean perfect. It means knowing what keeps you stuck, and exactly what to do to find your way back, together.

Moving from survival patterns to secure love.

Dr Lisa M. Kleyn, PhD · Relationship Scientist & Creator of The Secure Love Lab™

~70%
of adults were never taught the skills to love well or navigate relational conflict
45%
of divorces are considered preventable with the right relational skills
Most
of us were never modelled what secure love looks like
⚠ Why Advice Hasn’t Worked

Most advice focuses on what to say, not why you react

✗ What to say in conflict
✗ How to communicate better
✗ Scripts and strategies
But it ignores one critical thing: your nervous system runs the show in emotional moments.
✓ What Makes This Different

The SECURE Method™ works at the level your reactions actually happen

✓ Addresses the nervous system directly
✓ Tools you can use in real-time
✓ Stay calm while it’s happening
Instead of trying to “think your way through conflict”, you learn to stay grounded while it’s happening.
The Solution

Introducing The Secure Love Lab™

The Secure Love Lab™ is Dr Lisa’s membership community where The SECURE Method™ is taught, a simple, structured system that helps you interrupt destructive patterns in real time and replace them with calm, grounded responses.

Start Interrupting the Pattern →

😢 Before the SECURE Method™

✗ Conflict feels overwhelming
✗ You shut down or overreact
✗ You feel anxious, reactive, or unsafe
✗ The same arguments keep repeating

✨ After the SECURE Method™

✓ You stay calm when things get tense
✓ You respond instead of reacting
✓ You feel secure, steady, and connected
✓ Conflict becomes a path to closeness
The Method

The SECURE Method™

A 6-step, trauma-informed system you can use in real time, not just in therapy, but in the actual moments that matter.

S

Sense the Signal Early

E

Externalize the Pattern

C

Co-Regulate Before You Talk

U

Unblend from the Reactive Part

R

Repair with Intention

E

Earn Security Over Time

Join The Secure Love Lab™, 30 Days Risk-Free →

✦  WHAT YOU GET  ✦

Inside the SECURE Methodβ„’

Everything you need to break anxious patterns and build a love that actually feels secure.

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2 Weekly Live Sessions

Live Zoom with Dr Lisa, replays included so you never miss a session

πŸ“… Live + Replay
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SECURE Methodβ„’ Mini Course

Understand exactly why you react, and how to rewire it for good

✦ valued $97
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3 Bonus Research Guides & Audio

Science-backed tools you can use immediately, in the hard moments between sessions

🎁 Instant Access
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Free Couples Access Pass

Bring your partner in, grow together, not just work on yourself in isolation

✦ valued $497
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Private Community & Weekly Check-ins

A safe space with people who get it, so you stay consistent between live sessions

PhD PsychologyUniversities of Oxford & Cape Town
LMFT (in training)Systemic & Attachment-Oriented
Internationally AccreditedFamily Legal Mediator
Your Guide

Meet Dr Lisa M. Kleyn, PhD

Relationship scientist. Trauma-informed clinician. Internationally accredited family legal mediator. Dr Lisa Kleyn holds a PhD in Psychology from the Universities of Oxford and Cape Town. Her doctoral research on social network influence in relationships is published and WHO-aligned, and it forms the scientific foundation of everything inside The Secure Love Lab™.

She has worked clinically across South Africa, Oxford, and London, in inpatient, day-clinic, and residential trauma settings, with a specialist focus on attachment injuries, high-conflict couples, and the kind of relational patterns that feel impossible to shift alone.

“My focus is practical: reduce reactivity, restore safety and trust, and deliver change that endures.”
Your Bonus Bundle  Β·  Included Free When You Join

Everything You Need to Go Deeper

⭐ Most Valued
Couples Access Pass
Your partner joins at no extra cost, same framework, same language, change that actually holds.
$573/yr value
Yours Free
Map Your Circle: The Social Network Audit
Identify who quietly supports, or quietly erodes, your relationship
Free
The Relationship Advocate Guide
Teach the people in your life to advocate for the relationship, not just for you
Free
10-Minute Somatic Anchor Audio
Down-regulate your nervous system so you can respond, not react
Free
The SECURE Methodβ„’ Complete Guide
Every step of the method Β· real-life conversation scripts Β· 30-day practice journal
$97 value
Yours Free
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That's nearly 4 months completely free
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Live Zoom Β· replays included
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SECURE Methodβ„’ Mini Course$97 value
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3 Bonus Research Guides & Audio
Science-backed tools to use immediately
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Why Dr Lisa Kleyn
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Academically Rigorous
Oxford University research, published in the Journal of Prevention Science
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Original Research
Pioneering social network research on an invisible force in relationships
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Attachment Trauma Specialist
Working at Khiron Clinics (global trauma recovery) and the Woodfield Trauma Service, NHS
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Recognized Professionally
Featured in Psychotherapy Networker Β· Speaker, 2025 Innovations in Psychotherapy
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Got Questions?

Frequently Asked Questions

Who is The Secure Love Lab for?

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The Secure Love Lab is for anyone in a relationship who is ready to do something real about it. Whether you want to:

  • β†’ Raise your relationship satisfaction and feel genuinely closer
  • β†’ Feel more secure and reduce the cycles of conflict that keep you stuck
  • β†’ Build a deeper understanding and compassion for yourself and your partner
  • β†’ Get clear on whether to stay, or leave, with honesty and self-respect

If you are in a relationship and you want it to be better, this is for you.

Can my partner join too?

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Absolutely, and it's encouraged. The Secure Love Lab is most powerful when both partners are learning together, developing a shared language and understanding at the same pace. If you'd like to join together, see the partner pricing options here.

What if I'm not satisfied?

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Your investment is fully protected. If within the first 30 days you don't feel the program is right for you, simply reach out and I'll refund you in full, no questions asked, no hoops to jump through. You deserve to feel confident in this decision.

Is this really live, or just pre-recorded content?

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Yes, this is genuinely live. You'll be working directly with me in real time, not watching recordings on your own. As a founding member joining this first cohort, you'll also receive free lifetime access to The SECURE Methodβ„’ complete course, a standalone self-paced program, as a bonus for being here at the beginning.

Is everything I share kept confidential?

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Privacy is a core value of The Secure Love Lab. As part of the enrollment process, every member agrees to a group confidentiality agreement, committing to hold what is shared within the community with care and discretion. What happens in the Lab, stays in the Lab.

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Results may vary. This program is not a substitute for professional therapy or medical treatment.

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