The Relationship Reset Toolkit
Free science-based tools to stay close through conflict - before, during, and after the fight.
What's Inside the Toolkit
The Conflict Decoder
- Spot shared triggers
- Understand each other’s moves & fears
- Create a cue word to interrupt the loop
Calm Conversations Tool
- Ground through breath & body
- Re-establish safety together
- Co-regulate instead of escalate
The Repair Ritual
- Name the pattern
- Reconnect through empathy
- Create a time-bound repair plan
Meet Dr. Lisa M Kleyn
Meet Dr. Lisa M. Kleyn
Dr. Kleyn is passionate about helping couples change sabotaging patterns, not partners. A relationship scientist-practitioner and founder of the SECURE Love Lab, she helps partners catch triggers, regulate, and repair before rupture becomes resentment. Her signature SECURE Method™ distills attachment science, polyvagal theory, and Internal Family Systems into one practical framework... so the same fight stops happening on repeat.
Developed by Dr. Lisa Kleyn, Relationship Scientist-Practitioner, this toolkit blends proven relationship science into easy, practical steps anyone can use—no therapy jargon, just tools that work.
